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Respect Can Stop Domestic Violence


Parent Guides has been featured in a number of high profile publications including SBS News, Perth Now and the Daily Mail. With domestic violence being such an important issue, it is great to see awareness and interest from the public. See the full article and links below. *All content belongs to rightful owners AAP Media.

SBS: https://www.sbs.com.au/news/respect-can-help-stop-domestic-violence

Perth Now: https://www.perthnow.com.au/news/social/respect-can-help-stop-domestic-violence-ng-s-1942384

The West: https://thewest.com.au/news/social/respect-can-help-stop-domestic-violence-ng-s-1942384

The Daily Mail: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/wires/aap/article-7002737/Respect-help-stop-domestic-violence.html

The Examiner: https://www.examiner.com.au/story/6112237/respect-can-help-stop-domestic-violence/

Respect can help stop domestic violence.

Charity begins at home and so should respect, according to a new guide trying to help combat domestic violence.

Melbourne media identity Eileen Berry says teaching respect in the home is the first step to stamping out negative behaviour.

RESPECT 101 is the latest in the Parent Guides 101 series.

It helps families define respect and encourage it in their children.

“RESPECT 101 identifies what respectful behaviour is, how to turn disrespectful into respectful, how to create life-long relationships and how to embed respect within the culture of adolescence,” Ms Berry says.

“This can apply at home, in school, in relationships and the community. It is important for parents and carers to model good behaviour and talk to their young people about what is and isn’t appropriate.”

The resource contains statistics, expert advice and case studies to inform and start important conversations between parents and carers and their teenagers.

Parenting Guides Ltd, a registered charity, has produced five other parenting resources that cover topics including drugs, sex, social media and body image.

1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732)

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Raising Respectful Teens


Recently, Parent Guides was featured in the Star Weekly and Domain Magazine. See the full article below along with clippings and images of the article attached.

 

How to help kids navigate the teenage abyss with respect for themselves and others.

Building resilience
Instilling strong values, helping to build resilience and providing support when needed is critical in helping children to develop self-confidence. This is equally important for girls and boys. Resilience is about being realistic, thinking rationally, looking on the bright side, finding the positives, expecting things to go well and moving forward, even when things seem bad.

Being yourself
Openly supporting diversity will help your child accept who they are, regardless of their sexuality or gender identity.

Raising boys
Traditional gender roles have changed but society still often considers it a sign of weakness if a boy shows emotion. It is crucial that boys (and girls) learn about empathy, expression and mental health strategies. They need to know it is OK to cry, how to articulate fears and anxieties, and to seek help if they need it.

Raising girls
Some teen girls still hear messages about what they can or cannot do, or how they are to blame for bad experiences, such as sexual harassment. Teaching them that they can reject gender stereotypes and control their destiny can help boost their confidence.

Raising children
Self-respect is a great building block for resilience, says Associate Professor Julie Green, the executive director at raisingchildren.net.au. “Teens can build self-respect by setting their standards for behaviour,” she says. “If your teen has self-respect, they believe they matter and should be treated respectfully by others.” Associate Professor Green says parents and carers are role models, so their teen should see and hear outlooks that are positive and optimistic. Good, honest communication is also crucial. Tackling difficult conversations with your child indicates a healthy relationship. “If you’re warm, accepting, non-judgmental and uncritical, and also open to negotiating and setting limits, your child is likely to feel more connected to you,” Associate Professor Green says. If potential mental health issues arise, Associate Professor Green recommends talking to them and seeing a health professional together. This will also reassure them that they are not alone. “You could start by talking to your GP, your child’s school counsellor, teacher or other school staff. GPs and other health professionals can suggest strategies and give advice,” she says.

Sexuality
Education and communication are key in helping young people embrace their sexuality, and to respect that of others. Family Planning Victoria recommends parents and carers educate themselves and clarify their values and messages before talking openly and honestly with their young person. It is also important to support their right to develop healthy, respectful and consensual sexual relationships and not assume everyone is opposite-sex attracted or the gender assigned at birth. Accept that young people may have different views to yours and take a positive approach that acknowledges that sexual activity and experimentation can be a healthy part of adolescence. Everyday moments, such as watching TV news or other shows, can be good starting points from which to ask your young person what they are thinking or feeling.

Promoting self-confidence
A key to respecting yourself is having confidence in yourself. As parents, we play a pivotal role in developing our children’s self-confidence. Self-confidence can be encouraged at home through the acceptance of who a child is as a person and by promoting healthy eating alongside appropriate physical and mental activity. Help is also out there if needed – Beyond Blue has a youth program and both the Alannah and Madeline Foundation and the national Office of the eSafety Commissioner work to reduce bullying.

Respect 101: It’s Time We Talked by Eileen Berry


You can spell it out in a song like Aretha Franklin, but any way you look at it, respect is the cornerstone of our society. It is so important it should be in capital letters – RESPECT – because this fundamental base forms the sum of our nation.

As the founder of Parenting Guides Ltd, a not-for-profit organisation providing resources for parents, carers and educators, I believe in the importance of instilling respect in our children to protect our future.

We have all seen recent public displays of disrespect whether it be online trolling, media figures mocking the disabled, radio jocks bullying staff or women being harassed in the workplace. AFL Collingwood president Eddie McGuire recently apologised to double-amputee Cynthia Banham after his negative comments when the number one Swans ticket holder struggled with the coin toss at a game against the Crows.

Some public examples of disrespect have had tragic results, such as the RM Williams teen model, Dolly Everett, who took her life after being bullied online.

AFLW star Tayla Harris was bombarded with misogynistic comments on a picture of her booting a fantastic kick, but she hit back saying she didn’t want to give “animals” oxygen. Now that’s a resilient, young woman and she gathered so much support.

But how do you make a child or young person resilient? You start with the basics. I have developed a new resource, RESPECT 101, with the support of the Federal Government’s Office for Women, because I am passionate about encouraging and developing the resilience of our young. Being respectful of yourself and others is a key and RESPECT 101 offers insights and advice to nurture our children.

RESPECT 101 is part of a suite of Parent Guides’ resources including Social Media 101, Sex 101, Drugs 101 and Mental Health 101, all developed to arm parents and others with knowledge in this ever-changing world. RESPECT 101 is an XYZ page resource, written by educational and psychological experts with input from students, educators and other teen specialists, designed as a starting block to build respect in children to develop their resilience.

It looks at how we, as adults, can provide positive role models while guiding our youth through today’s cyber minefields, and empowers children to be strong. This resource cuts across classrooms, sporting clubs, the home, the broader community and other places, to put kids on track where-ever they might find themselves.Respect 101 Booklet Cover

It considers relationships of all kinds but dwells on the most important – a child’s respect for themselves and how to build on this, and from there, with resilience, they will flourish. Experts in the RESPECT 101 resource look at family life and values, and the effect of family breakdowns and domestic violence on children. There are sections on the hot potatoes in today’s schools – sexism and equality, racism, social media and LGBTIQ+, as well as providing pointers to more assistance.

These resources are close to my heart. I wouldn’t be here unless I cared. Why does a childless, single woman care? By choice, I was a parent/carer of a nephew with serious substance abuse who now lives daily with mental health issues. Parent Guides was my response to the battle I faced finding resources and agencies to help my nephew and led to me to launching Drugs 101 at a parent night (Strathcona Baptist Girls Grammar) in 2015. It gave parents, carers and others the guidance and skills I wish I’d had as a carer.

As a group of professionals, we go from strength to strength, identifying the next challenges. We recently ran a teen suicide prevention project (funded by the State Govt), Suicide: It’s Time We Talked, tackling the once taboo subject of teen suicide using a professionally-written play by Alan Hopgood and an expert panel (GP, headspace and PoPsy) to dispell the myths that talking about suicide triggers an event.

Parent Guides create trust, credibility and confidence in families and our next projects include Gaming & Gambling 101, Resilience 101 and Money 101. We hope they will make a real difference.

For more information re parent information nights at your school see out Schools Contact Page or call us on 0407542655

 

Parents Must Model Respectful Behaviour


Parent Guides “tell it like it is”.

With the consequences of bad behaviour and broken relationships in the media spotlight, a new guide aims to help parents and carers to develop in their children a sense of respect.

Melbourne media identity Eileen Berry says many topical issues, such as violence against women and generally abusive behaviour, stem from a lack of respect. She says most people are respectful, but a significant minority do not demonstrate it in public or at home.

“This can result in sexism, racism, violence and other destructive behaviours,” she says.

Respect 101 is the latest in Eileen’s Parent Guides series. It helps families define respect and encourage it in their children. “Respect 101 identifies what respectful behaviour is, how to turn disrespectful into respectful, how to create life-long relationships and how to embed respect within the culture of adolescence,” Eileen says.

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LGBTIQ


Sexual Attraction

Source: Parent Guides

Family support for same-sex attracted and gender diverse young people is important.

It is important for parents to support their children regardless of their sexuality or gender identity. The LGBTIQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex and questioning) community is diverse.

Data presented in the Safe Schools Coalition’s All of Us teaching resource reveals that Australian and international research had found that about 10 per cent of people are same-sex attracted, about four per cent are gender diverse or transgender, and about 1.7 per cent are intersex. Read more

Consent and Respect


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What Does Consent Mean?

Consent means a free agreement, and it’s important that young people understand that. So if someone has been drinking they can’t give consent to sex. If someone is asleep they can’t give free agreement. If someone is underage they can’t give consent to sex either.

Talking about sex with our kids isn’t easy but it is necessary. Research tells us that young people trust the information they get from their parents, particularly their mothers.

As parents, we need to talk to our teenagers about the importance of asking a partner ‘is this what you would like to do?’. They can’t assume consent because they think they understand the body language of their partner – they have to ask. Read more

Parenting Girls – 10 Things You Need to Know


ABC Radio Melbourne presenter Clare Bowditch talked to Steve Biddulph AM, Australian author, activist and psychologist about his new book on parenting and raising girls. This is an edited transcript of the interview.

10 Things Girls Need MostClare Bowditch: There are many things in life that we spend lots of time worrying about, but for those of you who have children I am assuming that you’re something like me and you spend a fair bit of your time wondering “How do I give these kids what they need in order to become the kind of adults that I know they can be?” It’s a question educators like Steve Biddulph have been asking for some decades now. You might know him as the author behind the million selling book, Raising Boys. He’s now turned his attention once again to the mental health of our girls. His belief is that perhaps they’re growing up too fast in these times. What can we do to support them in their growth and what are the 10 things, according to Steve Biddulph, that girls need most? That’s the title of his new book. …

Steve you have a lovely way of being able to simplify this complicated process called growing up. Now, you’ve been guiding parents through the process of supporting their kids in their quest to adulthood for many decades now. What have you noticed changing particularly in the life of girls?

Steve Biddulph: Okay, well it used to be Clare that girls were going great. 20 years ago they were flying ahead and that’s why I concentrated on boys for nearly 35 years because boys were the disaster area. But about 10 years ago my colleagues all around the world were picking up this really serious downturn in the mental health of girls. I had a teenage daughter in those times and I saw what she was going through and what her friends were going through and girls were just getting hammered. We just got more and more alarmed and so this new book is because I thought we needed some stronger medicine to give parents to help girls regain self-belief. All the things feminism was working for which seem to have gone out the window just lately.

CB: I think there is a new and interesting way of coming through but what you’re saying is girls were suffering. What was the evidence of this? What were you seeing Steve? How are they showing their suffering?

SB: The clearest cut and probably the core thing was anxiety. Now there may be people listening who’ve got daughters who are relaxed and confident and spirited into their mid teens. They may have loyal friends and are treated respectfully by the boys in their lives and that’s fantastic if that’s the case but for about two girls out of five, that’s just not so. They’re massively anxious and currently across the western world one in five teenage girls is on anxiety medication. They’ve reached a point where mum or dad have taken them to their doctor because it’s that’s scary and severe. Anxiety then drives the other things like self-harm and eating disorders and alcohol overuse and risky sex … but anxiety, we think, is the core.

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